The New Year is always an interesting time in the health and fitness industry. We’re met with marketing slogans reminding us to “Just do it” “Excuses or Results; You Can’t Have Both”, “No Pain, No Gain”, “Yesterday You Said Tomorrow” and tips on “How To Get A Beach Body” (our tip: bring your body to the beach ;)).
While these direct messages may pump us up for a moment, their positivity is fleeting and source of motivation a bit condescending.
We don’t think it’s wrong to want to change – we just want you to know that you’re also not wrong for doing things this holiday season that were out of your norm or not beach body-worthy (lol).
You’re not wrong because you indulged this holiday season. You’re not wrong because you savored the slow and sat on the couch more than normal. You’re not wrong for not always feeling like going to the gym or eating vegetables or getting a PR on the rower or saying no grandma’s banana cream pie.
And you’re also not wrong to want to change a few things. To move forward from that place of constant indulgences and couch-surfing. To better yourself. To see yourself at the end of 2018 as a new person mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and even physically. Change is exciting! But it just works best coming from self-love, not self-shame. You with me?
Here are some tips to REFRAME YOUR RESOLUTIONS with a little more amour (read: success) and a little less animosity:
1. Understand that your fitness/body/motivation will ebb and flow this year.
Just like the ebb and flow of the seasons, our ‘feelings’ ebb and flow, our way of eating ebbs and flows, our fitness routine ebbs and flows, and even the way our body looks ebbs and flows. You see, our bodies are living organisms that are always in flux. When we live so completely attached to how our body looked at one single point in time, we miss out on the beauty and brawn it can produce now and in the future. Bigger, smaller, looser, firmer…it’s.all.normal. Don’t hate what you see in the mirror and resolve to ‘fix’ it. Exercise and healthy eating aren’t meant to be punishments for poor choices; they’re rewards for having a really awesome, capable body. (And if you’re not sure how capable you are, come visit us and we’ll help you prove it to yourself). 🙂
2. Be compassionate and trust yourself.
Staying in the mental battlefield of ‘I’m a failure’ or ‘I can’t trust myself to not do x,y,z’ will always lead to self-sabotage and make us stay in the valley of ‘ebb’ for longer than we need to. Conversely, when we acknowledge and embrace seasons of perceived imperfection (because none of us will ever be perfect, fyi), we find normalcy and mental rest and renewed energy to trust ourselves that when hit with an ebb, we can and will rise up and flow. There’s a lot of a freedom in that.
3. Succeed on purpose.
Setting goals or resolutions without tiny action steps to get there is like blowing dust to the wind and hoping it comes back as a unicorn. Or something like that. 🙂
Should your resolution be to lose 30 lbs? Nope.
Should your resolution be to eat better? Closer, but Nope.
Should your resolution be to plan your meals? Even closer, but Nope.
Should your resolution be to prep 3 meals for the week on Sundays before 9pm? Getting hotter, but Nope.
Should your resolution be to schedule grocery shopping with a list of the foods you’ll need to prep 3 meals on Sunday before 9pm? YES!
You see, outcomes need strategies.Your goal isn’t to lose 30 lbs this year. It’s to grocery shop with a specific list on a specific day so you can make meals at a specific time so you can set yourself up for success the rest of the week. It’s putting purpose to airy wishes; the real thing that needs to happen for a result to occur. So, what’s your domino that gets the resolution rolling? Start there.
We think entering into a new year with new vision for yourself, when approached with the right foundation, is a really good thing. It’s why we designed our gym to be a place where eating healthy can fit into your real lifeand workouts are strategically programmed and progressed. So, it’s cool if you really want to attack your fitness and reach a goal or look a certain way…that’s what our Look (even) Better programming is for! Or if you just want to chill out a bit and focus on simply maintaining a good routine and good health …that’s what our Feel (even) Better programming is for! Or if you want to just work out some kinks and see the results in your daily function…that’s what our Move (even) Better programming is for!
We get the ebb and flow.
We get how hard it is to be self-compassionate and self-trusting when it comes to food and fitness.
And we get how important it is to have a Coach who cares so that working out and nutrition strategies are on-purpose.
So, as you consider to resolve to ‘be’ ‘do’ ‘not be’ or ‘not do’ this year, we hope it’s with a joy for the process, a renewed sense of self-love, and a reality of how exciting it is to focus on simple strategies over airy unicorn outcomes. 🙂 After all, nourishing food and a strong, empowering workout that feels good, surrounded by people that make you happy, doing something that elevates your mood, your spirit, and your body is a really good way to welcome a new year and a new you.
Dedicated to your success,
Jess + Team Valeo
PS – If you’re a member with us – Thank You for allowing us to link arms with you on a weekly basis. It gives us so much joy. And if you’re just exploring what it might be like to work with a coach to look, move, or feel (even) more awesome this new year, just click the link below and we’ll be in touch.